Its funny how sometimes u have so much to say about a particular topic but no matter what you cannot find the proper title...you are just so stuck up with getting the title right that you end up forgetting what it was that was so important that you had to stay awake at 1.30 am on a Sunday morning to get it off your chest....what was so important that you couldn't just pick up the phone and vent out your feelings and that you have to go back to writing blogs abt it...but you have to agree sometimes writing abt our views is much more easy than speaking abt them.
Its the first Sunday of the month of August and "Friendship day" is here. Now dun get me wrong...I am not the sort of person who celebrates friendship day...I am a firm believer that you dont need a specific day to express your gratitude to your parents, friends and family...So for me friendship day was like just another day....like any other Sunday....
This year its different. This year and the coming years require friendship day. To make myself more crystal clear, I would like to present you with a scenario....Picture this--- you are at wadi....the usual setting (read mess)...its there just lying around..some are drinking, some are smoking while some have been to the moon and back, the game of age is going on in the background, someone is playing 90's on their cell and people are arguing about who's the best singer- Kumar Sanu or Udit Narayan...(to settle this argument once and for all, the best singer is S. P. Balasubramanium hands down)....there are people around you...but suddenly you realise you dont know any of these guys really...u mite know one or two of them...but most of them are FOAF's...and thats when reality strikes...your wolf pack has slowly and gradually ceased to exist...whilst once there was a pack, all now that has left are some random bits and pieces.
How did we come to this??? How have the hours turned into days and days into weeks...how it never dawned upon us that the wolfpack is getting thinner by the passing day....
I am not being cynical here....but the truth is priorities for all of us have changed. The same applies to me as well, as I am speaking from my own experience... back in the school days everyone was my best friend...The universal set of friends was very much into existence...Then I learnt to pick and choose...from my college group i chose few, I let go off a few of them and I neglected quite a few of them. I chose those who were the best of the lot...and yes i did choose the best of them. I am extremely proud of the way all my choices have turned out.
I am at cross roads in my life....There is so much important stuff goin on...both at personal level and professional level...and to make the most of these wonderful times i am blessed to have company of all my good friends....I know they are here for me as i shall always be there for them even in their toughest times. However sometimes when i think real hard, i realise that there are friends who were thick and fast but now are mere acquaintances. How much they mean in my life is for me to decide. What I wonder at times is have i become selfish to come to expect more from such people. Am I living up to the expectations of the others like I expect them to live up to mine...what if I am not? Do i just stop being their friend and become more of an acquaintance? Is it wrong to expect a call, a friendly chat, some swearing or some precious time?
But then having thought abt this quite a lot i realised you cannot stop being a friend...ever. Sometimes you have to take a back seat but that doesnt mean you phase yourself out. No matter if people are not living up to your expectations.... No matter how many arguments, fights you have you cannot let your ego ruin your friendship. And this is what i feel is hurting us today. Our egos have become more dominant for us to have a clear picture about any situation. We are not ready to give second chances to people who have erred. We let our differences, misunderstandings swell up rather than face it upfront and more often than not this proves detrimental to the relationship...of course friendship, like any other relationship, requires commitment, honesty, integrity...It has to be nurtured, cared for. Its true and everyone knows so, that friendship is one ship that wont ever sink.
On this Friendship day, I want to wish all my friends the best in their lives. Its not that everything is lost but many things could be better if we have the guts to make them right. People are just a call away!!!!! Its true that to make new things you have to let got go of older things, but that cant be true in case of your friends. Make new friends but dont forget the old ones.
Friends are like a bottle of wine, the older they get, the sweeter they taste.
